Friday, March 06, 2009


First off, many thanks to Kadian for being my guest today - she's an incredible lady, with so much talent!! I hope you'll all enjoy chatting with her today. Apart from writing, Kadian does fabulous graphics and books trailers... she's really IS amazing!!! Enjoy meeting her... I just love her!!!

The Intro – Kadian Style!

Hi Guys! I’m Kadian Tracey. First I want to thank Denyse for letting me take over her home for a bit. I promise I will try not to burn the joint down. I won't let anyone upstairs in the bedroom areas - the party will stay downstairs. Lol – don’t worry I’ll be good! But I have to warn you, I’ve been sick – the flu is a horrible thing to have – so I hope things doesn’t come out all garbled. I am here to rant a little, promote a little, and hopefully teach you something, make you laugh and give you one of those things that make you go “erm....”

A little about me, my name is Kadian Tracey (Found out recently that my first name is also a drug for chronic pain and causes erectile dysfunction! Lol fun fact.). I was born in Jamaica, moved to Canada when I was in my teens. I’ve been writing since I was about eight years old but started out with poems and song lyrics (that I never really did anything with). I graduated to romance when I was about seventeen. My first short The Scottish Lord’s Destiny was released with Dark Castle Lords. Then a second and third short African Chocolate and Desert Protector were released with Red Rose Publishing. My first novel length novel I had to self published is titled Broken Wings It is about a girl who was brought up in such an abusive home that when she was forced to stand by up by herself and decided between loneliness and love she had no idea what she was doing. It’s not your typical romance (it’s not erotica its sweet romance). Its a bit darker and not your regular formula. I got the idea while I was in church and even though a few publishers would have taken it had I changed a few things, I did not feel it would be right. I wanted this story to prove a point, to teach a couple of lessons about life, hardships and love and changing it would have defeated that purpose. I would have felt guilty afterwards. You can find Broken Wings on

When A Man Needs to Grow Up

Ok, so what I am here for. As you can see, my topic is kind of something that I am just learning. I am twenty five years old, turning twenty six so most of these things about men needing to grow up is slowly sinking in for me. First let me start by saying that I am not a partier. I was brought up so sheltered that partying is somewhat of a new concept for me. I mean I have fun, I spend WAY too much of my time reading to even care but lately, I realised I am getting older. The older I get is the more my friends keep telling me that I need to get out of my box, do fun stuff, dress like a girl (I’m a Tom Boy. Always have been...). But I digress. So last Saturday night, my friend and I had horrible weeks. She had exams and assignments – I had exams and assignments and work driving me nuts. Let’s just say by Friday night we’re both laying on my bed, heads hanging off, tongue out the side of our mouths too tired and bored out of our skulls to even get up to drink the glass of white wine we just pored out.

Anyways, we decided that we were too tired on Friday night so on Saturday we decided at like ten that we were going to take showers, get all dressed up and head on down town to see which one of the clubs we could get into. We tried our favourite but the line was so long and we live in Canada, so it was FREEZING! Oh god heavens, how can it get so cold in Canada? So we walked down the street, around a corner and stopped at another. The girl at the door told us it was cheap tequila shots all night, no money to get in, great DJ. We went in, had a good night. I actually had tequila for the second time in my life! That was excited too. The DJ was great.

Now here the men comes in. I never realised how much grown men are like grade school or high school boys! That night, the men all come in, stand against the bar or holding up the wall with a beer in their hands watching the women. The women are all dancing with each other in the middle. Don’t that just remind you of the days when boys thought girls had the cooties so at school dances the boys are in one section and the girls in the other? I thought the way it worked was that they were supposed to come over, ask you to dance? Did I mis-read that?

Second, my friend and I were dancing and all of a sudden I got barrelled into from behind. I turn around and there was this guy, drunk as a skunk, shoving at me and a few others to get out or in or whatever he was trying to go. Now, what a grown man would have done, was stop drinking when he realised he was getting toasted – or if he wanted to get drunk for whatever emotional or psychological reason it was – would stop, apologise then went on his merry way. Not this punk. He stopped and had the nerve to argue with me. See, I don’t do drama and if it was when I was younger, I would have given him something to cus about but I am older/wise (I hope) so I grabbed my friend’s hand and walked away. Wasn’t going to make one jerk ruin my night - Right?

So long story short, the night draws to an end at two in the morning and I wanted to leave. My friend stopped to speak to these guys from USA and then we exited the club, trying to get a cab home. We walked up to the nearest McDonalds where we hoped it would be as crowded for people trying to get home as well. These two men from Detroit ran across the street almost getting hit by a speeding car going the opposite direction to speak to us. One took my hand and one took my friend’s hand.

Wait, let me stop there and explain, my friend was drunk. I am WAY too paranoid to get drunk because I have been told that I have control issues. Getting drunk is the absolute WRONG thing to do in public these days and after I finish writing you will see why I said that. These guys, apparently saw me leading my friend who was walking funny and thought we were both drunk because as soon as he started asking me questions I knew exactly why he and his friend came over. He was asking me questions like “are you drunk?” and saying things like “you should come to our hotel.”

This punk (keeping it PG here - really hard but I'm good) and his loser friend came across to walk with us because they thought my friend and I were both drunk and would agree to anything they said. Everything like going to their hotel rooms so they can take advantage of us. He even had the nerve to ask me if I was “the responsible one.” I lifted my chin proudly and told him “of course!” The other guy tried to lead my friend away and I started yelling at her in Spanish because I was NOT having it (We speak Spanish she more fluently than I do but I can carry my own).

Now comes my rant – I think that today, we should let others learn from our mistakes, our experiences and our regrets. Most of you aren’t my age anymore but you have children that are my age. I know that they may moan and whine when you bring up lectures like this but because they don’t want to hear it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t tell them all the same. Men need to grow up. They need to stop acting like horny teenagers and stop trying to take advantage of drunk girls. Ones like the jerks we met Saturday prove that. They troll bars and take advantage of drunk and or naive young women and then they are gone. It is not a mistake on their parts, they know exactly what they are doing – especially when they ask questions to feel out if the girl is drunk or not. Then it is no longer sex but rape. When are these boys (because men would never do something that dumb) – when will these boys think that they shouldn’t do to other women what they wouldn’t want done to their mothers and sisters? What if someone did that to any female members of their family – I’m sure they would be beyond MAD and would go after this creep with all they got. So why then would they go out and do that to women

And another thing, don’t blame these boy’s parents. Sometimes the parents are good, law abiding people who tried their best to raise respectable men – something just went wrong somewhere...

So What did We Learn Today?

Grown men has a bad habit of acting like immature, immoral morons that doesn't have the sense the good lord gave them. When you as a woman go out, watch over your friends and make sure they do the same to you. Because there are creeps out there wh are only too willing to pounce. So please, warn your children to be careful – no matter how old they are and how much they think they know. Not all men in the club that speaks to them are trustworthy.

My Works in Progress

My works in progress is a short list at the moment because I am also an University Student but I am working on a novel titled “Wish Upon a Banyan Tree.” It is interracial and most of it takes place in China. It is giving me some headaches now because I feel as if I’m missing something but don’t know what. I’m trying to get friends to take a look at it and tell me what they think I’m missing or if I’m on the right path.


As though I didn’t have enough to do as it is, I also do graphics. Mostly covers, trailers and the odd banner. I have a website: not sure if I’m allowed to post it here but I’m sure Denyse will let you know it if you ask her.

The End

Any who I will be giving away a copy of Broken Wings (ebook) to one of the participants today and I hope who ever win will enjoy it. Thanks to Denyse for letting me crash at her place. You rock!

Kadian's Website:


  1. You sound like an interesting person. Very thoughtful and accomplished. I like it that you self-published a book. It shows belief in yourself and strength. Denyse posted your presence here today at another site. I just published my first book: Torts, with Eternal Press. I want to develop publicity and marketing skills. I'd love to learn more about the trailers you do. I'm glad Denyse notified us of your presence here today. SB

  2. Thanks Sasha! I'm trying to build myself just like you. I only have one novel length so I'm working hard to change that. If you'd like you can ask Denyse and she will tell you how to find me about trailer. Thanks for stopping by and have a lovely day!

  3. Love the humor of the interview and ot covers so much in such a short interview. I'm sure you'd make a wonderful radio guest (several of us have shows)
    Thank you so much for sharing
    Barry Eva (Storyheart)
    Author of "Across the Pond"
    Book Site:

  4. Hi Storyheart! hope you're having a lovely day! How do you do that over the net of or over the phone?

  5. LOL, I loved this. Where do I begin with agreeing that men are like little boys? I love Kadian's's like I was sitting right beside her and she was telling me this story...I love that! Kadian, you have a fan. ;o)

  6. lol thanks Dorothy! You are wonderful!

  7. Boys eh? It is a sad fact that some men believe their own PR; that they truly believe everythng they think. *sigh*
    Kudos for writing while being at Uni too! Each of those 'jobs' is full time - good luck with both your projects - writing and school.

    Lisa xx

  8. Thanks Lisa. It gets pretty bad sometimes. It sucks one when cut into the other but so far I have friends who talk me into sticking with both!

  9. Hiya, Thanks to all you guys who came out to check out what I had to say! Thanks to Denyse for letting me crash her pad lol. Sasha Bailey please email me at because you've won an ebook version of Broken Wings!

    Thanks again!


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